Let’s be honest…weddings have gotten a little weird. There’s so much pressure to make them look right that people forget what they’re even for.
If you have ever scrolled through wedding inspo and thought, “That’s pretty…but not really us,” this is for you.
Because you do not need a “content day.” You need a day that actually feels like yours.
1. Start with what feels true
When I say “intention,” I don’t mean another aesthetic. I mean sitting down together and asking, what does our love actually feel like? What kind of space, energy, and pace fits you both?
For Noah and me, that meant Scotland. Cool air, good whiskey, quiet roads, and no audience. It was for just us, because the promise we were making wasn’t meant to be performed it was meant to be felt.
Your version might look totally different. A city rooftop. A cabin in the woods. A diner breakfast after a courthouse ceremony. What matters is that it feels like your story, not a copy of someone else’s highlight reel.
2. Don’t overfill the day
Leave space for life to happen. When every minute is scheduled, there’s no room for the moments that surprise you. The in-between seconds that make your wedding feel like you.
Give yourselves permission to breathe. Sit down. Eat the food. Sneak away for five minutes and just look at each other. Those pauses are what make the day sink in, what let the weight of the promise actually land.
Perfection leaves no space for presence. So plan enough to feel supported and then let the rest unfold naturally.
3. Pick meaning over mood boards
Ask yourself, “Does this matter to us?” Not will it photograph well, not is it trending, but does it mean something? Because meaning never goes out of style.
When you make choices from that place, your wedding becomes timeless without trying. Maybe it’s the song your mom used to play. Maybe it’s handwritten vows, a passed-down recipe, or a piece of jewelry that’s been in your family for generations.
The prettiest moments come from truth, not polish. Choose the things that feel like home.
4. Hire people who get it
Your wedding vendors are the keepers of your experience. The right ones will make you feel seen, not sold to.
Work with artists, not operators, people who listen, who care about what matters to you, who want to document a story rather than stage a scene. When you surround yourself with people who value connection, everything feels easier.
That trust changes the way you experience the day. You’ll feel supported, safe, and fully present. That’s when the real photos, the honest, unguarded ones, happen.
5. Remember the Point
This whole thing? It’s not a performance. It’s a promise.
When the noise gets loud, come back to that. It’s not about doing it “right.” It’s about the two of you making something sacred together. In whatever way makes sense for your life.
You can have the champagne tower, the designer florals, the ten-course meal and it can still feel like you. The difference is whether it’s chosen for meaning, or for show. The story always matters more than the spectacle.
Closing Thoughts
A wedding that feels like you won’t come from a checklist. It comes from conversations, laughter, and the courage to do it your way. It’s about choosing connection over comparison.
When you let go of what you think it should look like, you make space for what it actually is.
And that’s the version that photographs beautifully.
If you’re planning a wedding that’s rooted in meaning and truth — I’d be honored to document it.
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